The most important things for every child but few Vietnamese parents can do

In the process of studying and living, Ms. Le Mai Huong - Montessori 3-6 teacher has a certificate issued by AMI, directly working with babies and B2B manager (Back to Basics Montessori Education - A schoolpreschool by Montessori method in Hanoi) - experienced and pondered about howparentIn many countries around the world such as the Netherlands, England, Germany, Canada ... as well as Vietnamese parents.She realized that: "Vietnamese parents follow the latest parenting trends, ready to learn all kinds of Japanese, American, France, and Jewish children but forget the most basic things that a child needs.".

Here are the basic and simple but very important things to raise a healthy, confident and happy baby, but while running after the best for your child, it may not be possible.Vietnamese parentsPay attention.

Eat with parents

Many Vietnamese babies do not enjoy the simplest thing that they may have in the world: eat with parents and relatives.Instead, the babies eat alone, next to the maid/ mothers to feed or help the meal.Usually this happens regularly until the baby 3-4 years or older can eat independently, not falling dirty.

Ms. Le Mai Huong - Montessori 3-6 teacher has a certificate of acute ami.

Mai Huong teacher said that when children eat alone, they will not have culture, children need to be eaten with adults, see adults modeling: Eat slowly and enjoy, eat happily with those with thesemy loved one.

Meals at home

"I see many children starting their day at a noodle shop on the sidewalk, with a small bowl of pho noodles with meat without meat because the meat is not swallowed. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, how children have childrenThe new day has a lot of energy, healthy, ready for learning, with low breakfast, low protein - energy for the brain - so? "- Teacher Le Mai Huong asked the question.

Delicious meals with family, is one of the most simple but most important love vitamins.Meals do not need to be hearty, but just need to be cooked with love and be with relatives, just need to boil young green spinach, or sesame salted rice.

According to teacher Mai Huong, it is necessary to restrict others to cook for her children, because the meal contains a lot of love in it.The maid often doesn't love to cook a meal but just a job.Therefore, mothers should go to the kitchen to cook rice for their children to eat or better to cook rice with their children.

Moderation activities: Early sleeping early

Now people do not sleep early, get up early like the old Vietnamese family anymore.The biological clock stepped back a few hours, when 9-10 pm in many children still laughed and jumped, so that every morning was a struggle to call children to go to school.A enough baby will wake up in the morning without anyone calling, which is also the way you measure whether your child is enough to sleep or not.

After a long day, children should eat lightly, do not eat well or are too full before going to bed 3-4 hours because if so, the digestive system must work, causing difficulty sleeping.In the evening, too much fun, stimulation, exercise will make children sleep late.The child's brain needs to rest after a day of tiring day, is the time to bathe, massage, read stories, relax to be able to sleep deeply and during that time the baby's body is long, growing up.Thanks to early sleep, getting enough sleep and children will be healthy to be ready for a new day ahead, will wake up early to exercise, to operate in nature, to enjoy the fresh and quietest time of the cityThe street before becoming too noisy and polluted.

Health care together

Vietnamese people do not have the habit of mobilizing and taking care of their health together.Because we are not forming this habit from a young age, we grow up very difficult to start jogging, yoga ... even though it is aware of the importance of physical training.

In order for children to form a habit of health care from the child and maintain this habit, parents must also model, and their children maintain their daily exercise.Children need to exercise to develop physically.

Love yourself

When asked to fill in the blanks in the sentence: Being a parent is a job ... many parents have filled the word: the most difficult in the world, the most challenging, even "nightmares" because they have not found a way to raise farmingTeaching children suitable, besides words like "happiness", "wonderful".Being a parent is a special job, 24/24, always in a ready -to -fight position, a job for us to change ourselves every moment.

This work is also full of pressure, we wonder if we have done right, why every breastfeeding is not finished, seeing mothers do this and that for their children ... we feel inferior ...So instead of loving ourselves, we drown ourselves deeper, putting pressure on ourselves."We talk about caring and loving ourselves, but it is just talking but not really loving in reality. Vietnamese parents are under pressure, the fathers are stressed because of the money and fame for fame and fame, mothers who go to work and take care of their children always frantic rice, do not have time for themselves, feel exhausted and come home, it is easy to get angry.

There are many mothers who shouted at their children, beat their children and then regret it, not because they want to shout to beat their children but because they do not have enough time to rest, too tired and impatient with their children.Reason is loving children but the action is not like that because we do not have enough time to take care of us. "

Teacher Le Mai Huong said that love children start from loving himself.When parents learn to love themselves, spend time with themselves, then parents can calmly observe and understand their needs.When respected, it is met with legitimate needs, the child will feel the love of parents.

The hug and holding hands

Does anyone hold their parents here?This question is posed for parents and falls into silence with shaking heads.Our generation of 8x and early 9x people never dare to hug their parents - the people we love and closest to the whole society of love.

Many babies keep seeing strangers hugging, rushing into their lap, always wanting to be carried ... maybe because at home is not cuddled enough.This will increase the risk of children being abused and emotionally dependent on others, when growing up, there is always a need by someone who always has a lover for fear of being alone.

Hug your child a lot, because we can't know it is the last hug."If you can't make each other happy with small things, how can you do big things" - Teacher Mai Huong said.

"Another small thing is that the fists, I often see adults, parents, teachers grab the young wrist and drag away, pull away.That is not a parallel fist that children need"It is an adult forcing the baby to follow him. A gentle fist, leaving the baby to direct him instead of his imposition will help the relationship become bilateral instead of one way.

Love you are not comparable, evaluated and judged

There is a very good saying of Dalai Lat Ma: "What is love. Love is the absence of judgment" "What is love? Love has no room for judgment".Vietnamese children are often surrounded by compliment, criticism, and burden of parents' expectations and expectations, by the emulation system and achievements of the school, because the concept of "success is to lead.First, the rest is failure "."When people praise the first -class child in the school, it means criticizing all the remaining babies who are second -class citizens.body ".

Vietnamese children from childhood are often compared, expected to be successful, so they are afraid of wrong, afraid of stumbling, fear of failure, fear of trying new things, because they are afraid of not daring to do, do not dare to escape from the area of ​​AnMy whole, receive challenges and risks.But successful people are always those who dare to take risks, dare to think dare to do and do things that no one dares to do.

"I often share secrets with my children, things that my mother is wrong, stumbling, failure so that I can see that failure is a normal thing, like others, so that I am not afraid of failure, ready to share with my mother.Regarding what I am wrong, so that I can see that I don't need to listen to my mother because I am not necessarily right and of course I can freely tell my mother, even if it's a failure." - Teacher Le Mai Huong shared.